HELP! My Baby Doesn't Like Food! A Parent's Guide To "Picky Eating"

Just yesterday, I was chatting with a new friend of mine. She confided in me that her sweet baby seems to turn up their adorable little nose at every spoonful of food. If that sounds familiar, you’re definitely not alone!

You’re Not the Only One With a Picky Baby

Many parents hit this stage where they feel a bit worried or frustrated. You’ve got a baby who loves milk or formula, but now that you're introducing solids, it’s like hitting a little wall. They might spit things out, push the spoon away, or just plain refuse to open their mouth. And that can feel super daunting, especially when you’re worried about whether they're getting enough nutrition.

Why Some Babies Are Reluctant Eaters

There are lots of reasons this can happen. Sometimes it’s just a matter of getting used to new textures and tastes. Other times, it might be teething or just a phase of asserting a little independence. We’ll walk through some gentle strategies you can try, and hopefully make mealtime a bit more pleasant for both you and your little one.

Simple Tips to Encourage Your Baby to Eat

1. Keep It Low Pressure: Offer the food and let your baby explore it. If they’re not interested, that’s okay. Sometimes a no-pressure approach helps them get curious over time. You can even try offering it outside of the kitchen. While helping them maintain a 90-degree sitting position, try offering a couple choices seated in the living room on a towel or outside on the porch.

2. Let Them Play With Textures: Babies learn by touching and squishing food. It might get messy, but letting them play can make them more willing to taste. Don't be afraid to jump in to explore and taste with your fingers as well. While learning through play, it IS okay to play with your food!

3. Try Different Flavors Gradually: Start with simple tastes and slowly introduce new flavors. If one thing doesn’t go over well, you can always try again in a week or two. Also vary the temperature (in a safe manner). Apple sauce warmed up is different than fresh out of the fridge or right out of the room-temperature pantry.

4. Eat Together: Babies often mimic what they see. If they see you enjoying a bit of the same food, they might be more tempted to give it a try.

FINALLY....

Balancing Milk and Solids: A Gentle Reminder

Sometimes, when babies are still getting a lot of milk—whether it’s breastfeeding on demand or frequent bottles—they might just not have much room left to be interested in solids. And that’s perfectly normal! Every baby is different, and some might need a little more time to make that transition.

When you know they are hungry, start by offering some food options on their high-chair tray BEFORE you offer a boob or bottle once or twice a day. (Do this before they enter the "hangry zone".) Keep that up for the same meals/around the same times for a few days in a row. Offer a variety of options and see what interests them. If they gag on something, blend it up or offer a puree option instead. They will obviously not need purees forever - just until their mouth masters this brand new skill of chewing, moving the food to the back of the mouth, swallowing successfully, and maintaining a safe breathing pattern all at the same time! Who knew eating had so many steps?

Additionally, ALWAYS have a chat with your pediatrician or healthcare provider if you have any concerns about your baby. They can help you figure out a feeding routine that works for both of you.

It’s all about balance, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. As a fellow nursing mom, I totally get how this can be a delicate topic. The key is just to be mindful and know that it’s okay to ask for guidance if you need it.

Know that you and your little one have got this! 

Cheers and Happy Feeding,

Cassie